| To Love Again "Arise my beautiful one, And come along, For behold the winter is past, the rain is over and done. The flowers have already appeared in the land; The time has arrived for pruning the vines. And the voice of the turtledove has been heard in the land."
Ah, to love, and to be loved! Springtime is one of Father God's ingenious ways to remind us about the cherished love relationship that He desires for a husband and wife. Reading through the pages of Song of Songs, we discover a vivid prism of love and how love is generously given in return. – Action and reaction, in perfect harmony. Love is a universal phenomenon, a mysterious gift from God, yet we all experience and express our love differently. The reason for this can be attributed to how and what a person thinks, and how that person processes their thoughts. Research into humankind's behaviour and brain preference profiles can now explain to us why people understand and communicate love differently. Like an individual fingerprint, every person has a unique brain preference profile. Some people have a left handed preference, others are right-handed. Some are ambidextrous. We have a dominant eye, and so the list continues… As people we function in all the clusters of our whole brain, but will act intuitively out of a specific choice dimension. Brain profiles can change, but only if there are strong reasons for this to occur. It is helpful to know and understand your own brain preference profile, as well as that of your spouse's in order to communicate and interpret their choice love language. People with a left upper brain quadrant preference tend to analyze their love for their loved one. They are focused, rational, and critical. During love expressions they want to use the right love words at the perfect time. It is important for them to love their partner the 'right' way. And, they will expect their spouse to reciprocate the same. A person with a right lower brain preference loves non-verbal cues. They are sensitive, intuitive, expressive and very approachable. These people give much attention to ambiance when they share their love expressions. As a matter of fact, they will feel loved when the mood and atmosphere also lends itself to the love celebration experience. A person, who has a right upper brain preference, daydreams and fantasizes about his or her love life. They express their love in metaphors and pictures. This person is unorthodox, curious and will surprise his/her partner all the time. However, the chaos of their love language or expressions of love might exasperate a partner, especially if this partner has a left lower brain preference quadrant! - These people are very organized, traditional and structured. A person with a left frontal brain preference will appreciate love language that would make them feel safe and secure. Their love expressions are predictable. Remember, they might react negatively to unplanned surprises. Husbands and wives should strive to become whole brain creative in their love language. It is important to understand our own brain quadrant preference when we give and receive love. However, when we communicate our love in the way that our partner can interpret it best, we are both richer in our love expressions. Learning to respect and honour each other's love language and brain preference profile will increase the dimensions of your love life. "Run to me, dear lover. Come like a gazelle. Leap like a wild stag on the Spice Mountains."
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